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Cake day: December 27th, 2025

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  • She was from New Delhi, and had a potential fiancé back in India. As I understood it, the culture of arranged marriage has moderated, and your family will find a partner for you only if you don’t find one for yourself by a certain point. He was the one, if she didn’t pick somebody else.

    So, after a less than a year of dating, her job moved to Europe, and she wanted me to marry her so we could stay together. I wasn’t convinced that it wasn’t just a case of cold feet about the guy at home, so I said no. One of the hardest decisions I’ve made, and sometimes I still second-guess it.


  • The trouble, I think, is that even Reddit wasn’t Reddit (as we think of it now) for years and years. Recall that when it started, there were no subreddits, it was all one feed. The niche subreddits branched off of more general ones after participation grew and critical mass developed, the subreddit topics driven by what users were talking about.

    It doesn’t work the other way around. You can create a community to house a topic that people want to talk about; you can’t make people interested in a topic just by creating a community. I think we’ve suffered by premature fissioning into a thousand niche communities, each with 1 or 2 people talking to themselves.