I’ll start.
We had great chemistry but different goals. She was religious and looking to marry and thought she could change me, a non-religious person who intends to remain unmarried and childless. I was up front about the lack of religion and the lack of desire for marriage. She was not up front about her intent to change me.
After two months of regular flings she told me we couldn’t see each other anymore, because she wanted someone to go to church with, it was my fault she was living a sinful life (totally), and she was cheating on me with another dude was a Christian.
Even if she wasn’t just a crapbucket of a human being and was unhappy for some reason, she decided to become acrapbucket of a human being when she decided to cheat instead of talking about it. Not talking about the problems you assumed existed is immature in the first place. Stop victim blaming.
I don’t victim blame, you misinderstood. There wasn’t even the trust/need from her view, to talk about it. This relationship was doomed either way.
It sounds like there isn’t any conceivable scenario in which you see the cheating as the fault of the cheater. Please make sure you inform existing and new partners of your policy, and be sure to also explain that if you don’t discuss your relationship that’s always their fault too.