Again, disagree. The average is not much younger than I was, 17 is closer to average (at least in the US). And I didn’t say it shouldn’t be with someone you care about, I said, there is nothing special about virginity.
I’m not going to argue with another woman just because I disagree, just know that I’m not that much of an outlier and virginity doesn’t have to be some special thing. It’s just penis in vagina or other variations of genitals that one’s satisfy sexual orientation. Not all women carry trauma from the first time having sex, I carry no trauma other than he couldn’t finish because he was nervous.
If we stop treating it like it’s something special and instead as a natural part of life, maybe people can talk about it more openly instead of treating it like it’s a taboo subject.
Edit: I mistakenly assumed this guy was a woman because I misread one of his comments. The rest of my statement still stands.
No, but I did not make the claim that most if not all women carry trauma from their first time. You did.
Like I said, I hate arguing with other women on Lemmy. We need to stick together because the misogyny is so strong here. But you were the one who generalized without evidence.
The sentiment of the post is to teach women that losing your virginity is nothing special, that doesn’t mean it should be talked about and young folks educated on what should happen. Just that it’s not special.
Again, disagree. The average is not much younger than I was, 17 is closer to average (at least in the US). And I didn’t say it shouldn’t be with someone you care about, I said, there is nothing special about virginity.
First times of everything is considered special throughout all cultures, it goes without say that the more intense and intimate the more special.
I’m not going to argue with another woman just because I disagree, just know that I’m not that much of an outlier and virginity doesn’t have to be some special thing. It’s just penis in vagina or other variations of genitals that one’s satisfy sexual orientation. Not all women carry trauma from the first time having sex, I carry no trauma other than he couldn’t finish because he was nervous.
If we stop treating it like it’s something special and instead as a natural part of life, maybe people can talk about it more openly instead of treating it like it’s a taboo subject.
Edit: I mistakenly assumed this guy was a woman because I misread one of his comments. The rest of my statement still stands.
I’m happy to hear that for you.
I don’t know a single woman who’s not been traumatized by their first time.
And I know plenty who haven’t been traumatized. Anecdotes aren’t evidence.
Edit: I don’t think you’ve talked to very many women if you’ve never met a single woman who wasn’t traumatized after having sex for the first time.
You already know the research on this, right?
No, but I did not make the claim that most if not all women carry trauma from their first time. You did.
Like I said, I hate arguing with other women on Lemmy. We need to stick together because the misogyny is so strong here. But you were the one who generalized without evidence.
The sentiment of the post is to teach women that losing your virginity is nothing special, that doesn’t mean it should be talked about and young folks educated on what should happen. Just that it’s not special.
I’m not really sure where you get the idea from that I’m a woman, but what you just said seems really sexist.
Honestly, I misread this comment of yours
Apologies for assuming you were a woman. I didn’t catch the “I’d done it a lot differently part”.
But there is a lot of misogyny on Lemmy, ask any woman here about our experiences. That’s not sexism, that’s being realistic.