hmm, I have the same thing. But I do test a LOT and make backups on backups, tbh. Most of my time probably goes into that.

I’m curious if it’s the whole shebang or there are some aspects you do okay with. Immutability, higher-order functions, partial application, recursion, closures, pattern matching, tacitness, etc. I can also recommend not starting with Haskell. It’s a bit much.

some people are more intuitive than others at learning things. others have to take repeated pratices to make it work. im the latter.

We didn’t. What could go wrong if we fail? Nothing? Cool. See you at the finish.

We could die? CATCH ME IF YOU CAN, BITCHES!!

Maybe you care too much about your own life. Try having no will to live.

I am joking. Mostly.

I had this realization when I decided to rebuild the carburetor on my old mustang. After taking it apart I was absolutely paralyzed by then realized that some schmuck designed it, so surely I could just put it back together

The more you know, the more you know you don’t know.

Autism?

Have you tried taking a dance class? I recently started one for the first time, it’s nice. You’ll be in a room full of people who also can’t dance, which helped me a lot with my fear of dancing (poorly) in front of people.

sounds like RS bosses , its needless complicated for such a simply made game.

For me, that kind of thing simply isn’t fun and therefore isn’t worth the effort.

I have a friend who’s a skater and when he doing a kickflip I asked how it worked, as in, how do you make sure the board doesn’t land upside-down or whatever and he was like, “You just launch off and then deal with it.” which was not at all helpful lol. There must be some sort of logic to it!

Strapping a snowboard to my feet was pretty intuitive, just keep the downhill edge up. Hard agree, I even wore skater shoes but a basic Ollie was something my brain and limbs just…don’t do that

It is just physics. Obviously. Getting the intuition for it is pretty difficult without actually doing it. It requires practice but it’s also not just muscle memory. You can figure out a lot of the techniques by thinking about it. It is important to be able to visualise a trick before you have any chance of doing it. It’s a constant process of thinking, trying, thinking, trying, and suddenly you just feel it, and only then can you do it.

As for the physics, it’s always a battle of opposite forces. Gravity does win, but you can fall with style in the meantime. I guess most people can juggle a football a few times simply by kicking the ball and then get in the position where the ball lands. A skateboard is the same, only with less room and you being on top of it. The secret is the Ollie. Your center of gravity is not at your feet, so there’s some room to juggle the board underneath you.

There is a difference between being narcissistic and craving validation. It’s completely normal to want validation, feel needed, wanted and appreciated.

It’s very sad that every human need has been turned into a subscription based service.

Yeah I also have autism

If its all a fake performance, perform the show well and find yourself in a better position to help more people do the same.

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It was middle school when I realized “you can only be cool if you’re not trying to be cool,” which I then said in an effort to sound cool. By high school that had sunk in better and I accidentally ended up popular, I think. That was when I first started looking past what people do to try looking cool.

In college I got into psychedelics, broke through to ego death while listening to Dark Side of the Moon with blindfolds and peaking, and found that the deeper level of existence was that there isn’t one. Most things in life can be as simple or as complex as you want, and I had been trying to make it more complex than it is.

But the thing I keep finding is that for as simple as most things actually are, people are consistently more complex than their surface suggests.

A week ago my cousin was in town and I had a one on one conversation with him for the first time in our adult lives that started with him showing me his relatively popular Instagram photos from the past couple years of him running the rave circuit. But as we got to talking about it, he revealed that he didn’t give a shit about his popularity, his ex-boyfriend was the socials guy who wanted the clout of being with a hot rave guy. He had become disillusioned with pretty much his whole life, but you wouldn’t get that just looking at his socials. And for as shallow as his ex is, if you peeled back the layers of bullshit he’s built around his life, there’s probably some interesting thoughts in there.

I guess I’m not sure what I’m trying to say with all this. When I make an effort to understand, most people I meet drop the facades and spill their guts pretty quick to me. I might be uniquely weird for that ability, but I don’t know that it’s narcissism on their part so much as trying to be cool and grappling with never succeeding because of that trying.

and you can watch in real time as their world view starts wobbling and they start making up rationalizations and excuses for behaviour that is utterly narcissistic.

I encounter this when chatting with a family member and she mentions that she “loves animals” and who “couldn’t hurt a fly” while also being an omnivore. She feels sorry for the animals when she thinks of industrial farming, but does her best to never think about it. When this topic comes up, I don’t say anything (we’ve been through the topic in the past), but she sees the impatience with her bullshit on my face, and gets flustered by the fact that someone doesn’t consider this cognitive dissonance normal.

Add in a psychedelic experience or two, and it becomes impossible not to recognize how ridiculous it all is.

Can be done without them, of course, but psychedelics can blast you right to that position, for better or worse.

I’m at the point where I don’t even try to integrate any more. The only time I leave my flat is against my will because I have to go to work to be able to afford to live.

start making up rationalizations and excuses for behaviour that is utterly narcissistic

Humans are narcissistic and selfish because over the millenia the ones that were selfish outcompeted the ones that weren’t. It’s totally natural to be selfish. Some are just better at hiding it than others.

However there is also a simple social aspect to including yourself in photos. It’s a clear visceral way to say “I was here”. A photo without your face does not have capture the “you” part of that statement. Social interaction is not just an exchanging of ideas, it’s also about building relationships, and for that to happen, the “you” part of the equation is vital.

To be fair I rarely include myself in photos, but for the same reason I am also less integrated into my social circles.

You don’t have to fully integrate, I guess. As in, people don’t have to be your intellectual/ideological peers or see things as clearly, but you can still enjoy their company. If anything, it’s your moral responsibility to guide them and elucidate them when needed because, well, who else is gonna do it? They can’t do it for themselves, else they wouldn’t be posting a million selfies or doing whatever other nonsense they’re up to after their PFC has developed sufficiently. You’re gonna have to lead the blind to water, you don’t want them to die of thirst, right? The way is important too, because you don’t want them to see you as an annoying, moralising, “no fun allowed” kinda guy, they’ll just run away from you… but with the right approach you can be the somewhat wise unc/paternal figure of your group.

Beware though, people WILL call you asking for guidance on your days off and it’ll be up to you to define the limits of your relationships so you don’t end up moving to a cabin in the woods disconnected from everything, but it is definitely rewarding and very prosocial.

I basically don’t have any friends of my own anymore. The ones from high school I was never really close enough with to hang out outside school. We were just too different. Almost a decade and a half later and we see each other maybe once a year and don’t talk outside of that.

College was supposed to be a place to meet new people, and I did meet a few, one of which is my current partner. But that also didn’t last past college years, really.

I’m now in a different country, don’t really speak the language well enough and don’t really have energy or time to find new people. Plus, my introversion, social anxiety and health are only making it harder. My partner occasionally comments on me having no friends of my own, but then I look at his friend circle and want to roll my eyes. Most of his friends are from high school years, and he sees them maybe once or twice a year. There are a few he met through work, but it’s easier for him because the field we work in is male-dominated. So for him it’s okay, for me it sucks to be the only woman. But he doesn’t hang out with any of these people on regular basis. Realistically, most people he knows are acquaintances.

I think about this whole situation frequently and it makes me depressed and bitter. I feel like even if I find new friends, I’ll never be the friend, you know? They’ll always have other people they’ve been friends with for longer and I will be either not as important or discarded later. It’s been this way my whole life. Always easily forgotten and replaced.

I can completely relate. Additionally my specific standards also make it very bad.

I found out that I’m an Autist so for me it at least explains things but is also totally not helping to know.

Nevertheless I do not know for sure if all of this isn’t totally normal, as in the regular human experience. The older you get the more difficult it is to find and hold friends.

Sometimes, a handful of friends is not just enough but the upper limit as well. And that’s okay, right? If you have a partner and everything is okay, you will start your own small community regardless. 😅

You aren’t doing anything wrong.

That’s just how life is. Practically nobody makes friends as adults due to the structure of adult life.

As children you have tons of free time and no hangups or social status to maintain. As an adult you have zero free time, lots of hangups, and most adults are obsessed with social status.

Real friends are the ones that stick with you when shit hits the fan. When you’re an adult and you meet new people, you usually want to show yourself from your best side and for everything to go well. She we were kids, shit hitting the fan was somebody kicking a ball into a neighbors window or falling of a bike, minor things as an adult, but as kids that built character. The stakes are so much higher as an adult when things go wrong, so generally you avoid it even though this means that most of your relationships are superficial.

I’m not saying that something horrible must happen in order to get friends as an adult. But sometimes it’s better to simply work against the odds together to form a deeper connection.

Same. But I’ve had a couple breakthroughs: I enjoy it if I’m looking to buy something for someone else. And also when it’s random junk: thrift stores, flea markets, yard sales, bin stores, that kind of thing. With those it feels like I’m exploring, not just shopping.

This has NEVER made sense to me. I’ve practically never happened upon something I want to buy in a corporate store

Parents are really good at this because it’s their only alooone time

I’ve done this lots of times, especially at malls, only because it’s considered “spending” money. The reality, though, is that I’ll rarely actually buy something.