And the wild part? I didn’t even think of it as assault, but when i recently (maybe a year or two ago) reframed as “the inebriated cannot consent” I’d have to say, that definitely happened twice. I blamed myself for being drunk both times. Neither time has ever sit well with me, even before I reframed it.

And in both cases, the other, I feel weird even saying assailant, was stone sober.