• Malyca@lemmy.zip
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    1 day ago

    “start masking yourself because you make other people uncomfortable”

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      18 hours ago

      It was fine when extroverts expected introverts to exhaust themselves conforming to a society that values you and not them.

    • CultLeader4Hire@lemmy.world
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      1 day ago

      But I’m an extrovert and do this too cause there’s way more introverts than extroverts and they all find me overwhelming and/or annoying

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        8 hours ago

        Yep! My extrovert experience has been largely trying to find the balance between overwhelming/annoying/“too much” and shutting up entirely in awkward shame. It involves lots of trying to make sure I’m not overly talking over introverts, pressuring them to speak more than they’re comfortable, not carrying my load of the conversation, or accidentally disappearing from it.

        Just because I love socializing and need more of it than others doesn’t mean I’m good at it or that I don’t have a similar history of social rejection, especially growing up, to a lot of folks online.

        There’s also a fair bit that’s reminiscent of being the designated tall person. I’m able to ask strangers questions without too much difficulty, something some introverts in my life greatly appreciate.

      • Kangae_Hishiryo@scribe.disroot.org
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        23 hours ago

        “There’s more introverts than extroverts” hell naw, it’s the opposite. There’s way more extroverts than introverts in the world, unfortunately