Well yeah of course. Lots of people may not like the real you. You just need to find one. Well unless she’s a cheating bitch and then you need two. Er… I mean … never mind. 😂
but the sad truth is that there is the likely possibility that NOBODY will ever like you despite how loyal or peaceful or kind or handsome you are.
THATS what makes dating one of the shittiest games to play.
You can do everything right and every single person you want to date can still want to hang you despite you not saying or doign a mean thing to them.
You can do everything wrong like pinochet, reza shah, mobuto, joe biden, kamala harris, suharto , pol pot, benjamin mileikowsky, adolph shitler, queen victoria, idi amin, etc… and people will build statues in your honiur AND wanna have your babies…wait… ALL the people I just mentioned all had spouses AND children! loool.
The same can be said for making friends too I have also found. People have told me they either wont date me or either wont befriend me…because the biggest sin Ive committed , in their words, was I am Black…
Enjoy those shitty, lonely games , comrades lol 😉🫡💔😏🤭
Maybe try to avoid this defeatist way of thinking? It hard, sure, not trying to downplay the harsh reality of dating, but giving up will not help you find a partner.
It’s like giving up on life because you can accidentally die tomorrow.
At least, meet new people, not trying to date anyone and maybe make friends. Maybe and maybe with some time, one of this new friend will become a lover?
Worst case scenario you got more friends. Maybe they have friends themselves and you can meet new people?
Forget about loyalty, peacefulness, kindness or handsomeness like they are traits in a video game. A mid girl can become you crush by the way they talk to you about their experience of something you share.
Try to be the best human being you can become. It’s a lifelong journey. Meet people to expand your perspective. Try sometime to get out of your comfort zone.
But also be kind to yourself, allow time to heal from pain and hardship. Allow yourself to cry, it “reset” your nervous system and process an emotional event.
As for your awful experience of racism, I’m sorry you had to go though that. But don’t forget that you dodge a massive bullet. How would you have like living with someone who devalue you for your skin color?
Sorry if I sound preachy, I hope you get my message and good intentions. A friend of mine followed for most of his life this “love is not for me” mentality and now regret this choice and is trying his best to live his life fully.
In the end, it’s your choice, feel free to ignore everything I just said off course.
Whatever your choices, good luck, I wish you the best 🫶
Forget about loyalty, peacefulness, kindness or handsomeness like they are traits in a video game.
I feel like peopele should stop lying to themselves when they say these traits are not imoortant for meeting a monogamous partner. You partner will definitely care about how loyal to them you are if you two are monogamously involved. You oartner will likely care about how kind you are to them and others - heck there are some people who have mental illnesses that make it so thst they like unkind and abusive people MORE. And your oartner will DEFINITELY care about how you look or how ‘beautiful’ or ‘handsome’ you are . There is undeniably a ‘physical aspect’ to a person’s attraction towards you in a monogamous relationship. Would anyone here stay married to a partner who has deliberately let their health go to the point that they belong on ‘My 700 Pound Life’ ? Would anyone here stay with someone who has had so much plastic surgeries that that partner crossed past the Uncanny Valley a looomg time ago? …didnt think so.
Well yeah of course. Lots of people may not like the real you. You just need to find one. Well unless she’s a cheating bitch and then you need two. Er… I mean … never mind. 😂
but the sad truth is that there is the likely possibility that NOBODY will ever like you despite how loyal or peaceful or kind or handsome you are.
THATS what makes dating one of the shittiest games to play.
You can do everything right and every single person you want to date can still want to hang you despite you not saying or doign a mean thing to them.
You can do everything wrong like pinochet, reza shah, mobuto, joe biden, kamala harris, suharto , pol pot, benjamin mileikowsky, adolph shitler, queen victoria, idi amin, etc… and people will build statues in your honiur AND wanna have your babies…wait… ALL the people I just mentioned all had spouses AND children! loool.
The same can be said for making friends too I have also found. People have told me they either wont date me or either wont befriend me…because the biggest sin Ive committed , in their words, was I am Black…
Enjoy those shitty, lonely games , comrades lol 😉🫡💔😏🤭
Maybe try to avoid this defeatist way of thinking? It hard, sure, not trying to downplay the harsh reality of dating, but giving up will not help you find a partner.
It’s like giving up on life because you can accidentally die tomorrow.
At least, meet new people, not trying to date anyone and maybe make friends. Maybe and maybe with some time, one of this new friend will become a lover? Worst case scenario you got more friends. Maybe they have friends themselves and you can meet new people?
Forget about loyalty, peacefulness, kindness or handsomeness like they are traits in a video game. A mid girl can become you crush by the way they talk to you about their experience of something you share. Try to be the best human being you can become. It’s a lifelong journey. Meet people to expand your perspective. Try sometime to get out of your comfort zone. But also be kind to yourself, allow time to heal from pain and hardship. Allow yourself to cry, it “reset” your nervous system and process an emotional event.
As for your awful experience of racism, I’m sorry you had to go though that. But don’t forget that you dodge a massive bullet. How would you have like living with someone who devalue you for your skin color?
Sorry if I sound preachy, I hope you get my message and good intentions. A friend of mine followed for most of his life this “love is not for me” mentality and now regret this choice and is trying his best to live his life fully.
In the end, it’s your choice, feel free to ignore everything I just said off course. Whatever your choices, good luck, I wish you the best 🫶
Also umm this:
I feel like peopele should stop lying to themselves when they say these traits are not imoortant for meeting a monogamous partner. You partner will definitely care about how loyal to them you are if you two are monogamously involved. You oartner will likely care about how kind you are to them and others - heck there are some people who have mental illnesses that make it so thst they like unkind and abusive people MORE. And your oartner will DEFINITELY care about how you look or how ‘beautiful’ or ‘handsome’ you are . There is undeniably a ‘physical aspect’ to a person’s attraction towards you in a monogamous relationship. Would anyone here stay married to a partner who has deliberately let their health go to the point that they belong on ‘My 700 Pound Life’ ? Would anyone here stay with someone who has had so much plastic surgeries that that partner crossed past the Uncanny Valley a looomg time ago? …didnt think so.