I literally found my purpose in my 30s. Nothing was meaningful nor worthwhile in my 20s
it took me about two years to truly realize i was in my 30s (I’m a bit stupid) but once that happened a massive weight lifted from my shoulders. i suddenly realized, wait, I’m a grown-ass man, i don’t have to deal with this bullshit. i became more confident, took no shit from people and stopped dealing with teenage drama. yes about 10 years too late but that’s when i realized some of the shit i used to entertain didn’t even matter.
I really relate to this comic. I didn’t like being a child that much, and I feel alienated a lot on the internet by people constantly wishing they could go back to having no responsibilities. I really, really like being able to control my own destiny and decide what I wanna do, even though it comes with increased pressures and responsibilities.
Being an adult is awesome. I get to have a motorcycle, my own cat, I can build whatever I want, I can have chickens if I want, and I have a really cute wife. What could I do as a kid? Go to school? Live with my parents? Hang out with people who had the minds of children? Boooring.
Age 10-20 was miserable. Hormones. Parents. Bullies in high school. Difficult to find work. College struggle and debt.
Age 20-30 was better but still shit. Welfare. Homelessness. Police harassment. Juggling three jobs to pay rent.
Age 30-40 was so much better. Life was in order. Wife and I both leveled up our education and got a career. Traveled for the first time (Hawaii then Japan). Had kids.
Age 40 - life is getting better. Feels like the best days still happening.
My childhood was filled with proverbial dodging bullets and land mines. My adult life is a lot more chill because I have chosen to remove the drama that caused my childhood from my life.
This one really resonates with me.
In my 20’s I was just some guy working in a factory.
In my 30’s I learned about CNC lasers and CAD and got to do cool things. Now im 40-something and I get to do and see cool things, and even design cool things.
I’m 40. I feel like my life is over. My career was destroyed by Trump and all this AI bullshit. I fear becoming an old man and not being able to afford basic life essentials.
Maybe start fighting back?
Or, you know, sit there and get old and take it like a coward
Or, more likely, keep pretending that you’re not still WAY too comfortable to do fuck all
Anyone who yearns for their life as child has developmental issues. I’m not trying to say that as a sick burn, I think it’s honestly sad and source of suffering for some people.
One of the moat depressing things I used to hear as a kid was how this was the best part of my life and I should enjoy it.
Or their life is shitty, boring and full of useless/pointless demands. They wish they were still children, because they at least had some (fictional) purpuse.
It’s sad. Most of us realize life has no point and some wish for the childish illusion.
It’s similar to me wishing I was stupid, so I wouldn’t be burdened by the emotional consequences of opinions, thoughts and my negative perception of the world.
Also: it might also be child abuse (as an adult, you can intellectualise your experience, which you couldn’t as a child).
Doesn’t sound like an “or”, sounds like a developmental issue.
I think it’s natural for everyone to go through a stage of questioning the meaning of life, but if your end answer is “I just wish I was a kid again/stupid so I don’t have to worry about it” then give failed to mature intellectually.
I agree that it could be brought on by child abuse or other trauma. I’m not trying to place blame on the individual, everyone’s circumstance is different. Either way, I think it’s sad, and I hope those people find a way to improve.
Me discovering most of my hobbies IN my 30s:
Orly ?
It’s when you probably have your life in order and are comfortable with who you are. It’s a good time when you are most you.
Though for those who haven’t got either of those, it’s probably not going to be a good time. I feel for those people, I know a few.
I’m happy with myself in my 30’s it’s always nice to think of telling my younger self of the stuff I’ve done. British business the younger would be very surprised and absolutely jazzed about it.
True. Like imagine all those people who are “looking for someone to complete them” When said person has been staring at them in the mirror each.
My younger self would be happy and impressed with what I have achieved “You can draw ???” (Altho maybe not so much wkth still being certainly “not the life of the party” but that was to be expected :P )
Oh yeah well wait till you’re 40!
ITT: a bunch of “miserable” people who are way too comfortable and happy with their lives to fight back against what they claim is making them so (performatively) “miserable”
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