I left Reddit to get away from that, but unfortunately there still seem to be a fair number of users here that also are convinced men are the real underclass, victimized by everything.
I think I mostly run into it on meme communities. Is that just the destiny of all meme communities? To be overtaken by MRAs? It sucks because I genuinely like memes, but I don’t like randomly being smacked in the face by misogyny all the time. Any other communities I should avoid?
Any insight or tips appreciated 🥰
I’m going to be honest, I’m a little perplexed by the demands for evidence. I didn’t really ask to debate wether or not my experiences are real, I asked for some advice. The typical thing to do if you’re unfamiliar with the topic at hand and therefore can’t offer any advice when asked would be to not offer any. I don’t know why people are treating it like a challenge and it’s my job to convince you, but I have some guesses, like, for example, that a lot of you aren’t ready to accept criticism of something you don’t like, or that some of you have some internal work to do that you’re not ready for.
Other commentors here know exactly what I’m talking about without demanding proof. It’s not just me. I’m sorry if I misjudged you and you’re actually just very interested in learning more about me, but you don’t come off like that at all. You come off like you’re prepared to dismiss any examples I tried to show you anyway.
Well you’re saying something that is blatantly untrue and then pretending its a pervasive issue you’re being forced to deal with here every day. Meanwhile this is one of the few places its actually very uncommon and widely frowned upon. Only makes sense if you’re trolling.
Yeah, your post where commenters were musing about how “naturally consensual” 14 year olds are is what made me block the shitpost community on Lemmy.world.
I may not be popular in the meme communities, but I call out shit constantly. Y’all just want to be able to have your casual misogyny without any pushback at all.
You’re allowed to post it here, but people are allowed to respond to it as well.
It’s a daily constant occurrence that is universally approved of and pushed? Because that’s what OP is saying in the post and comments.
I see sexist comments every time I’m on Lemmy, yes.
Sometimes they’re even DMed right at me.
Whores die from whore diseases
I just see a loud small minority being treated as if its the vast majority. I feel the same about the shitty rape apologist/pedophilic comments you brought up. It just seems disingenuous to paint Lemmy as being a bastion for sexism where it’s pushed, accepted and promoted. I wouldn’t engage with the site or any of it’s communities if that were the case. I’m more suprised that if you believe it is, you choose to.
I think that most men have a blind spot for this kind of sexism and while you may feel the same as I do about these topics, I don’t think you’re immune from said blind spot.
If the vast majority was better about calling out the “loud, small minority”, then maybe the minority wouldn’t feel so big. Silence is complicity.
But thats what I’m saying. I see the vast majority consistently calling out, downvoting and arguing against that minority. Significantly moreso than any other mixed online space I’ve engaged with. That’s the difference I see and I think is being completely ignored. The overall cultural stance here is strongly against. Whereas every other major platform even remotely like this isn’t. I guess pushing for better isn’t a bad thing but I see it as a disingenuous angle. If anyone can make an account and engage, shitheads will poke out, its the way they are reacted to that sets the cultural standard. I see the way they’re reacted to being highly negative. I see it as, there are some sexist people on Lemmy and they are consistently treated as shitty by the majority. Not, Lemmy is a sexist place for sexist people.
I see a lot of those comments heavily upvoted and supported, especially when an OP is a woman. Take a look at any of violet’s posts and comments to see a clear example. You should really look through that post I linked to you - it’s the women of Lemmy talking about this issue.
You should have seen the type of comments and DMs I got when the Graham Platner rapist story was revealed.
There are some communities where it’s better moderated than others. I find Lemmy to be significantly worse with the misogyny than Reddit for example. When men are the overwhelming demographic in a place, sexism and misogyny are allowed to flourish. Lemmy is reminiscent of early Reddit and 4chan these days.
Your comments are coming really close to claiming “Not All Men!” as a way to wash your hands of this.