Have you ever done anyone a favor and they pushed a little harder than you were comfortable? Or complained while you were helping? Or got mad at you for not doing even more?
All while never having reciprocated kindness in any meaningful way and over time just increasing the favors in quantity and scale?
I have made a lot of friends like that over the years. I’m better at spotting them now than I used to be. It’s easier to not make friends than to keep making friends like that, not see it for a while and then have your heart broken when you realize they never liked you for you, but for what you provided
I wish I had someone in my life to warn me. I think I always assume people come from a place of altruism because that’s where I’m at, but I really think I could benefit from someone that could just tell me reality before my head is too far in the clouds.
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Have you ever done anyone a favor and they pushed a little harder than you were comfortable? Or complained while you were helping? Or got mad at you for not doing even more? All while never having reciprocated kindness in any meaningful way and over time just increasing the favors in quantity and scale?
I have made a lot of friends like that over the years. I’m better at spotting them now than I used to be. It’s easier to not make friends than to keep making friends like that, not see it for a while and then have your heart broken when you realize they never liked you for you, but for what you provided
You sound like my mother. But with her even when I warn her about the person, she is somehow unable to understand narcissists and sociopaths exist.
I wish I had someone in my life to warn me. I think I always assume people come from a place of altruism because that’s where I’m at, but I really think I could benefit from someone that could just tell me reality before my head is too far in the clouds.
codependency is a thing where a person is the exact puzzle piece that fits with a narcissist and equally hates boundaries.