Original post: https://mastodon.social/@heyokyay/117377613172824724
Everybody wants a friend no one wants to be a friend
There are a very small number of people that I would consider to have a true, platonic soulmate connection with. And I feel lucky to even have that. Those are the friends where you’re not expected to act any certain way, because no matter the circumstance or time passed, the next time you meet up its as if no time even passed.
God I feel really fucking lucky to have that, but I’m still hollow.
Also, what kind of cult do you want to lead if you’re hired?
help, when I do this I encounter sociopaths who view this “being nice” as weakness and an invitation to manipulate me; is there a trick to this?
I always find these sentiments puzzling. As someone who tries to be nice to everyone I simply don’t encounter people like this. I’m not sure if I’m subconsciously avoiding bonding with such people, I’ve been lucky, or what. But I have a pretty big social circle so the second one seems hard to believe.
Just gotta be the bigger sociopath
Sorry to be too serious but in my experience, for me, it’s because how I was raised divorced me from my intuition. Getting your intuition back is a huge part of healing and making better choices about the people in your life.
Have you ever considered leading a cult?
Edit: it could be like a good cult. Like a place where all the cult escapees can go to heal, since their trauma will likely make it difficult for them to integrate into society immediately
That’s not how it works.
If you want to find friends, that is ACTUAL FRIENDS THAT LIKE YOU, be yourself and do things you want to do.
The people you meet in that way will like the actual you.
Don’t try to become a different version of yourself to find friends, and then be surprised when they don’t like the real you.
I mean, “be nice to them” doesn’t mean “hide who you are and pretend you like everything they say and do when you don’t.” Treating people with respect as individual human beings (“be nice”) really is the starting point to any healthy relationship.
No I mean even “going up to people” is bad.
Let it happen organically, you can’t force lifelong friendships. They happen on vibes.
I know we’re kind being pedantic over the wording of a meme, but you absolutely can “go up to people” if the circumstances are right. Context is important, and most people aren’t going to be in the mindset to make friends if they’re outside of a “friend making context” like a bar/party/event so you probably shouldn’t just walk up to people at random. But making a small comment about a shared interest or experience that organically turns into a conversation can legitimately happen anywhere. Just respect people’s boundaries.
You can for sure force things, and reap the consequences.
Lifelong friendships aren’t made, they happen.
My tried and true method: see people playing a game -> ask to join said game with them -> friends acquired*
*Results may vary, but it’s worked so far for me to make friends
I’d give this a go, but how do you get into people houses without causing issues?
Bluetooth controller to play
