I think studying that nuance is important before giving advice.
Telling a person to just be nice with absolutely no other factor can paint a target on their head and put them in danger.
Such as the power of observance to sense a danger. Place, location could be important. As is time. If you’re in more chances of being around the same people repeatedly to be able to assess their behaviour as safe enough would be another nuance that is important to know.
you can be nice to anyone without making friends which is ok but making friends with them is vastly different. friend ship is a whole other channel involving give, take, sharing, trust, boundaries, vulnerability, time and intimacy and should be treated with care.
And …Well for all we know of eachother as strangers online anyone on here could be this person who is being nice to everyone and are being completely taken advantage of. They could be full boil in a codpendency and have a distorted sense this is friendship. And just on here giving bad advice to others to get taken advantage of cus they believe dysfunction is how relationships work. The person giving the bad advice have no such boundaries and even perhaps hate and judge such boundaries as it means some hard self reflection.
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I think studying that nuance is important before giving advice.
Telling a person to just be nice with absolutely no other factor can paint a target on their head and put them in danger.
Such as the power of observance to sense a danger. Place, location could be important. As is time. If you’re in more chances of being around the same people repeatedly to be able to assess their behaviour as safe enough would be another nuance that is important to know.
you can be nice to anyone without making friends which is ok but making friends with them is vastly different. friend ship is a whole other channel involving give, take, sharing, trust, boundaries, vulnerability, time and intimacy and should be treated with care.
And …Well for all we know of eachother as strangers online anyone on here could be this person who is being nice to everyone and are being completely taken advantage of. They could be full boil in a codpendency and have a distorted sense this is friendship. And just on here giving bad advice to others to get taken advantage of cus they believe dysfunction is how relationships work. The person giving the bad advice have no such boundaries and even perhaps hate and judge such boundaries as it means some hard self reflection.