I look forward to this day!

Reddit went to shit, and Lemmy is a lot like reddit was back in 2010 or so.

I try to do things that are fun for me, but underlying it all is that I treat my exercise regimen as a job. It’s just something I do and can’t miss. It’s a habit. Whether or not I feel like working out is irrelevant, in the same way whether I feel like going to work is irrelevant, I know it is something that I need to do so I just do it.

The one riding the goat into battle.

If this is you, you may have an anxious attachment style. https://www.attachmentproject.com/attachment-style-quiz/

This. Battery life and storage capacity makes old phones fantastic mp3 players, better than “cheap” ones you can buy today.

I had my prior life completely destroyed, and spent about 5 years getting my health together, and last August began integrating myself back into society. Starting with zero social network, in just a few months of dance classes and social dancing, I have more friends and things to do than I’ve ever had in my life. I do swing/Lindy Hop, which is popular in my area, and also some ballroom dancing, but a lot of people do Salsa/Bachata. I cannot overstate how awesome this has been for meeting people. As a single man, it’s especially powerful, as you have an easy introduction (“would you like to dance?”), you’re immediately in their intimate space, and if you’re any good at all you’re delivering a fun, custom choreographed experience that lights their face and makes them smile from ear to ear. At 60 years old, my social life has never been better, and I’m having fun with attractive women of all age ranges.

As someone that grew up with detached parents with whom I never had the relationship I wanted, I’ve come to recognize that it will never happen. My mother is now dead, and like my father, she lacked the capacity to engage in healthy relationships. The monologue in the “Free Churro” episode (S5E6) of Bojack Horseman really hits home for me, this point in particular:

I have this friend. And right around when I first met her, her dad died, and I actually went with her to the funeral. And months later, she told me that she didn’t understand why she was still upset, because she never even liked her father. It made sense to me, because I went through the same thing when my dad died. And I’m going through the same thing now. You know what it’s like? It’s like that show Becker, you know, with Ted Danson? I watched the entire run of that show, hoping that it would get better, and it never did. It had all the right pieces, but it just—it couldn’t put them together. And when it got canceled, I was really bummed out, not because I liked the show, but because I knew it could be so much better, and now it never would be. And that’s what losing a parent is like. It’s like Becker.

For anyone else in the same position, recognize that it is exceptionally difficult for people to change, and a necessary prerequisite is that they see change as necessary and want to change. Most are afraid of change and will never do it, to their detriment.