• mnemonicmonkeys@sh.itjust.works
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      3 days ago

      Why do people seem unable to comprehend just enjoying being around friends?

      And no, this isn’t a dig on introverts. It’s a dig on the older generations that seem to hate their spouses and can’t be around other people while sober

      • UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world
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        2 days ago

        Why do people seem unable to comprehend just enjoying being around friends?

        Drinking, in particular, is a proven way to relieve anxiety around strangers. So, when you’re at a party with people you don’t know, and you don’t want to feel nervous about it, you drink a beer or do a shot or whatever. Being in a crowded room, talking to people you don’t know, maybe even singing and dancing with them all come more easily after that. Liquor is often described as a “social lubricant” for this reason.

        Harder drugs can be even more potent.

        The sex kinda follows logically from there. Especially when it’s a room full of young, good looking, horny people.

        • mnemonicmonkeys@sh.itjust.works
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          1 day ago

          Drinking, in particular, is a proven way to relieve anxiety around strangers. So, when you’re at a party with people you don’t know

          Except we’re not talking about meeting strangers, we’re talking about spending time with friends.

          And while it can be fun to drink with friends, not being able to enjoy being around them while sober points to a lot of different problems.

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            1 day ago

            Except we’re not talking about meeting strangers, we’re talking about spending time with friends.

            Have you never been to a house party before? Friends and friends of friends and dates of friends of friends and occasionally neighbors who just wander in off the street.

            not being able to enjoy being around them while sober

            Imagine being 16 and going to a party, excited to try beer for the first time, and getting lectured like you’re a 40 year old alcoholic.

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        3 days ago

        There’s a certain type who thinks it’s a big adult flex to act exhausted by work, being annoyed with their family, and getting drunk to drown their self-inflicted sorrows. They’ve always been pathetic. I think (hope) it’s a dinosaur that’s slowly going extinct.

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      4 days ago

      What’s the point of partying if not to poison your brain and infect your genitals.