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    4 days ago

    Why not force her to sit in her own shit 10 hours a day while I’m at my job.

    She has the same ability to get up out of her shit and improve her situation that her kids did at 18, depending on upbringing.

    A lot of these sorts of discussions seem to center around an implicit social contract that people don’t realize they’re agreeing to on a minute by minute basis. It sort of works like a pension where the company goes bankrupt. Now everyone who was depending on it starts from scratch and all the investment (time, karma) is gone.

    https://issendai.com/psychology/estrangement/missing-missing-reasons/

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      3 days ago

      what the fuck are you talking about? elders require care because they can’t care for themselves. they regress into infancy as they age and their body/mind deteriorates. my mother had dementia and was nothing more than drolling infant before she died and she lived in taht state for over a year. and the facility she was in was full of people in various states of failing health that required professional care.

      80 year olds can’t improve their situation, they are slowly dying.

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        3 days ago

        elders require care because they can’t care for themselves. they regress into infancy as they age and their body/mind deteriorates

        This isn’t true of all old people.

        what the fuck are you talking about?

        Age alone can’t be used as the only determining factor for having the capability for independence at either end of the age spectrum.

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          3 days ago

          it’s true of old people who need elder care.

          fit and healthy old people don’t live with their families nor do they live in care facilities. they typically live alone because they can.