Cool. I don’t. I fucking love being independent and most independent people I know love it too. The most unhappy people I meet and have known were those who were co-dependent on their families, even if they were living alone, because they never developed emotional of fiscal dependence and a self of autonomy and self-actualization…

I don’t have a lack of a sense of community at all. But I go outside of my house and do fun shit at least 2-3 times a week. I don’t sit around on the internet complaining about how awful the world is and how awful my life is… weird how that works! Weird how being an independent self-actualizing adult is a really positive thing that makes life happy… and the alternative makes life miserable.

Almost as if you want to feel good about yourself you should… go outside and participate in life. Not sit around doom scrolling on a device in an online spaces in a cycle of self-pity and rage punctuated by bouts of feeling moral superior to other folks who don’t share in your politics or lifestyle choices

it’s true of old people who need elder care.

fit and healthy old people don’t live with their families nor do they live in care facilities. they typically live alone because they can.

i dated a gymnast once, but she was injured and in recovery.

still fucked like a champ though. just in standard positions.

oh, sorry do you have a professional nursing license? can you administer drugs, do physical therapy, do psych evals, and all that on top of feeding and wiping up parents asses for them because they are regressing to infanthood?

so amazing of you, they must be proud with your multiple professional medical accolades.

what the fuck are you talking about? elders require care because they can’t care for themselves. they regress into infancy as they age and their body/mind deteriorates. my mother had dementia and was nothing more than drolling infant before she died and she lived in taht state for over a year. and the facility she was in was full of people in various states of failing health that required professional care.

80 year olds can’t improve their situation, they are slowly dying.

that’s like every relationship i’ve ever had. i’m not sure where people get these relationships where other people share their opinions in lock step with them.

everyone i know has different feelings on various issues.

Right, if only other people would die, your life would be magically better.

It’s other people existing that is ruining your life… not your choice to be a ‘music producer’ and having that blow up in your face… no it’s that AI stole your career from you. Do you also DJ as a side gig?

yeah, and it’s easy enough to block them with the right front end and have most of your expereince here be less full of insane brainrot.

There are some really cool folks and communities that actually have really cool and positive posts. But it is hard to find with all the slop and ragebait that many folks, and new users, seem to propagate.

miserable folks want everyone else to be as miserable or more miserable than them. they can’t abide anyone enjoying anything.

It’s so funny, I bought a Switch 2 recently, and the amount of vitriolic HATE i get for mentioning that I love and it’s great is insane.

apparently unless I build my own PC from dumpster parts and run a hyper specific distro and only run steam linux games, I’m some sort of traitor and horrible ignorant fool. There can’t ever be a legit reason to like just want to play fun games w/o being an insufferable superiority twat about it. and anything less than that is ‘boot licking’ or me being a nazi lover or something.

Everything on here has to be politicized to an absurd extreme, because no fun and happiness is allowed as long as the State of Israel exists, or something.

And you’re some dude who rages at people online because you hate your life?

maybe you should take that rage and turn it into something productive my dude. self-pity isn’t a productive activity and your indulgence in it only make your life worse, and your moms. maybe work out, volunteer, etc. you have enough money apparently to have an active internet connection? dunno where you live but where I live a ISP fee can easily be $100+ and that’s enough food for one person for a few weeks.

call it privileged all you want. as far as I’m concerned I busted my ass my entire life and now I get to chill and enjoy the fruits and comfort of my hard-labor that many of my peers refused to engaged in. and i’m laughing it all up.

you could also have spend your time raging here on applying for jobs, or getting job counseling or million other things to improve your life. but it’s your choice to not do that. crash out online all you want i guess.

Social mobility is not a myth dude. But keep telling yourself that if makes you feel better about your life.

It’s true that many folks refuse to break the cycle of their misery. I’ve seen that countless times my entire life. Grew up in a shitty poor community full of people who fucked themselves over repeatedly, and well, I decided not to be like those people and my life got a lot better. And plenty of rich people out there actively choose to be miserable their entire lives. Money isn’t really the issue, so much as the cycle of shitty self-destructive choices and the refusal to change your life.

No, finding a job isn’t easy, but it’s also much harder when you have a shitty low-effort attitude. I hire people at my company. Most people who apply shoot themselves in the foot because they don’t know how to make themselves a appealing candidate.

Yeah well, that’s why you better get a job where your wages increase, shouldn’t you? Also why you should be saving and investing, and not blowing your money on short term bullshit like so many ‘poor’ people do.

Weird how many people I meet who are 35 and ‘broke’ who spend their entire life spending more than they made… funny how that works.

Glad it works for you, for other folks, like myself, it would be a waking nightmare to live that way. Not everyone gets along with their family. For some people, being away from family is the only way they can be healthy and happy. For many people their families are nothing but a burden on them and a drain on their well-being. Not everyone has the luck of having family that is supportive and cooperative. Some of us come from families where our parents actively tried to fuck us over and fucked themselves over and we spend our entire life trying to get out of the self-imposed misery.

Further, again I"m not talking about multi-generational households by free choice or other cultural practices. I’m talking about people who are dependents, like they can’t function without their parents money or approval, and often are in toxic and abusive relationships with each other, where both parties would be better w/o the dependency.

Yeah, that’s why that’s a career for many people. Because most of us don’t have the ability or skills to do that, so we pay someone who does to do it.

Why would I subject my mother to my shitty care, when I can pay a professional who has trained and worked with elder care their entire life who is really really good at it, and therefore she has a WAY higher quality of life in that home, than she’d ever have with me? She’s be utterly fucking miserable living with me and me with her. I also literally don’t have the time to be changing her diapers 6x a day, because I have a full time job and other responsibilities.

But right, anyone who treats their parents well by giving them excellent elder care from a professional is a fucking asshole, right. Why not force her to sit in her own shit 10 hours a day while I’m at my job.

I’m talking about emotional and financial co-dependency, like people who can afford to live on their own, who don’t choose to do so because they are unable to leave the nest because they don’t know how to function without their parent taking care of them.

Normalizing dependency is not a good thing. There is a reason ‘living in your parents basement’ is an insult, and it’s not because of the economics of it. It’s because it shows a lack of ability to grow and mature and have a functional adult life. If you are still seeking parental approval and living off the bank of mom and dad you’re not a functional dult.

Nobody cares if a 22 year old is living at home while they sort out their first job and pay down their loans. But if you’re doing that at 35+ and you have no plans to move out for the rest of your life, that’s entirely different.

should’ve speed run it and knocked her up at 16

are you sure about that?

People these days seem to loathe being independent adults. The amount of co-dependency on parents I see in 30 something adults is fucking mind-blowing.

the AITA on reddit is one of it’s most popular things, and lots of people farm content from it.

because people love judging the shit out of other people and explaining how awful they are. or justifying their assholery.

it’s arm chair quarter backing other people’s relationship drama. and everyone is an NFL relationship coach in their own mind.

people ask the internet because social approval is very important to folks and they need to have their biases validated.

lol. or you could just not be an ass to your wife.

blows my mind people on here will go into vivid detail to justify their weird and bad takes, rather than just chill out and be like ‘maybe it’s not all about me’

nobody is a victim other than the yuppies, who are mostly victims of themselves.

look before you turn and stop rushing to do stuff.

My kitchen is tiny and I never have this problem, but I also know how to share space and I have worked in a kitchen with 20 other people before. It’s easy if you’re not a dick who thinks other people are ‘in your way’.