I mean, the point of the scene is to make you ask why they’re shooting the dog
Not literally tho
it will never not irk me the way that neurotypicals will ask a question about something when they literally do not WANT an answer–because if you try to answer their question they accuse you of ‘making excuses’.
what they REALLY mean is “I hate that, I don’t want it to be that way. I don’t want you to tell me why it is, I want to lead you to changing your mind by making you rethink it so you might understand why I think it shouldn’t be like that”
they’re so gods damned self-entitled.
Ugh, my now-ex-wife used to try to guess the plot. She’d watch intently, then blurt out “I know what’s going to happen!” Then, tell me. She was wrong more than she was right, but the times she got it right prompted her to keep doing it.
It’s not the reason she’s my ex-wife, but I don’t miss it.
My wife and I do this, but with movies or shows that are really dumb (e.g. From, just watched with her). It’s mainly throwing outlandish scenarios out and saying “There is no way this is what happens.”
During legitimate movies or shows that’s a no-go though.
i had a buddy that would do the same and if he correctly guessed would unironically say the movie was bad because it was too predictable
My mom used to do this, it would infuriate my dad, but he’d say nothing.
Wise
My mom does this for movies, but it’s not strictly characters. It’s anything that’s happening in the movie. It’s just like, I don’t know. I’m watching it the same as you.
Gray rock and say “I know as much as you do” every single time
Yeah, my go-to response is always “I’m watching the same thing you are.” And maybe that’s how I handle “we don’t know yet,” versus “pay attention to the movie” when we do know.
We all turn into our parents. I’ve tactfully taken to asking, “Do we know who that is?” if I think I’ve missed some plot detail. Then I still look out of touch and pre-demetia but I do it in a collaborative way.
We do this during shows, especially if we’re on a later season. I haven’t legit binge watched anything in years, I’m breaking hour-long episodes in half most of the time.
This drives me nuts if I am also watching the movie for the first time.
But I love rewatching movies and happy to pause and talk about the plot on the 2nd+ watch.
However I do make a rule that under no circumstances will the conversation be “Who is that actor? What else are they in?” Plot discussions only!
Quick Google. Explain and spoil the entire movie. They stopped asking me.
Just give mom a pacifier.
The best comment my Mom ever made when I watched Star Wars The Phantom Menace:
“What the fuck is Oscar Schindler doing in that movie?”
Somehow not pissing himself for the duration of the film
Ah Liam Peeson
Wow, allist skills are crazy. They’re like computer databases!
This is a universal mom experience
Why!? Why is it moms? Can a mother please explain this to me?
They’re looking out for bad influences.
No mother knows who that guy is.
My mom would ask questions about the movie like that and then call me stupid for not knowing the answer
Make it up. In a way that makes her look stupid later on, for extra points. Or call out her abusive behavior. Tell her you’ll put her in the worst elderly care you can find if she gaslights you.
Oh there is no point fighting with her. She is too dumb/insane/narcissistic to admit she’s wrong about something.
One time she was going through chemo and she was running a fever of 38c but was refusing to go to the ER. After a couple hours I decided I needed to just force her. So I basically pushed her into the car and drove to the ER. Typical waits here are 10-15 hours but she was at 39c when I got her there, she was in a room and hooked to IV antibiotics within 5 minutes. She was on the brink of sepsis. She stayed in a quarantined unit for a week after that, I brought her food everyday and played board games with her. When I finally brought her home she told me that I never help her and that I’m not a good son. That’s probably the closest I’ve come to killing someone.
That sucks. I have a narcissistic parent, and in my case my resilience and the overall relationship balance is such that I’m better off cutting ties. It looks like overall you can shield yourself so that the relationship remains a net positive for you. That sounds like a silver lining, but I’m happy for you that you have it.
I’m definitely better off no contact with her but I’m the only family she has in this country and unfortunately, I didn’t inherit her callousness. In fact it’s made me hypervigilant of suffering so I had some stupid need to help her. I honestly could have let her die in at least 4 situations in the past 6 years and she’s just as ungrateful each time.
When covid started, for whatever reason, she started cleaning everything with 2 spray bottles that she put cleaners in. One contained bleach and the other had ammonia. The time I caught her doing it she was “cleaning” the bathroom with the window and door closed. I walked past the bathroom and could smell the chemicals. I told her you’re gassing yourself to death by mixing those and her response was “IT’S IN 2 DIFFERENT BOTTLES, THEY AREN’T MIXING”. I had to explain to her that when she sprays one then the other one on top, as she was doing, it’s literally mixing right in front of you. She storms off in silence.
Sorry for trauma dumping so hard but man, shit is annoying af.
Nah, I invited it. Dump away. You know you could have let her pass out from it and then drag her to a ventilated place without much risk? She’d have quite a headache, but likely the illusion of control of your life would crack.
I’m no medical professional so I wouldn’t take that chance with someone’s life lol even if I pulled her out and she suffered some short term consequences, she’d be blaming it all on me. It’s my fault I didn’t stop her earlier, it’s my fault I didn’t pull her out earlier, it’s my fault that the bathroom needs to be cleaned, in fact, it’s my fault that COVID exists.
You really can’t win against someone who’s brain doesn’t actually work. Her mentality in life is that everything that goes wrong is my fault, everything that goes right is because of her, and since I’m younger than her, it means she’s always right.
Why would ever contradict her? “It’s your fault!” “Yes. I did it. I poisoned you.” “Don’t mock me!” “I’m not. I really did poison you.” “…” “…”
Her blaming you is like a kid that keeps asking “why?”, but a lot less wholesome. She wants engagement. Don’t give it. Do not bicker, do not engage in good faith dialogue (she isn’t), just go “yup”, “that’s right”, “um-hum”, “you’re right”. And when you eventually had enough, get up, leave, don’t acknowledge that you’re leaving or say goodbye. And absolutely, do not ever pick up the phone from her, ever. There really is no situation in which picking up that call will leave you better than before.
Is that your friend?
