When every gathering involves intoxicants of some form
When you want to be friends with new people
This is going to be a tough one to swallow… but if they never reach put to you unless they need you for help, you’re an accessory.
Laughing at you rather than with you
When you can’t be yourself around them without feeling judged by them.
Having been in this position before when I was a huge piece of shit, it would behoove someone to engage in a little introspection. Turns out I was an angsty and emotionally disregulated little twat. To be fair those “friends” also kinda sucked from how they treated me while I was in some of the deepest depression of my life, but I didn’t make it easy to like me.
Hey just wanted say, respec for growing, recognizing your growth, and sharing the experience of checking your own shoes
Been there. When you don’t feel a connection. When you don’t want to respond to their comms. When you feel dread about speaking with them.
Fwiw, I have the most wonderful friends. Some people just move apart.
- When you’re playing tennis and the ball never comes back over the net.
- When you’re in a Barbershop Trio.
- When the warranties have run out on the current ones.
- When you look in the sand and there are no footprints.
- When you burst into tears every time you eat “Share Size” candy.
- When the short alien with the glowing finger goes back home.
- When the Jumbotron zooms in on you sitting there by yourself, and you’re forced to kiss your hand.
- When your friends didn’t invite you to the theme park and there was a tragic roller coaster accident.
- When you’re watching “Friends” and think that the characters are actually friends.
When you’re watching “Friends” and think that the characters are actually friends.
They’re a polycule.
When they uproot their “normal life” and move into their vehicle and ask if they can park on your driveway and use your water and electricity and shower all because they don’t want to be part of “the system”.
(He could afford his normal life, we talked about it frequently)
At some point their corpses start to smell unbearable and you need to find fresh bodies.
No but really, same with what others said. Make sure they treat you kindly and respect your boundaries and such.
I’m expecting most answers to be about how to recognize bad people, but here is one if your friends are good decent individuals:
When you fantasize about doing activities with friends, you know none of your current group would vibe with that.
That’s usually more a case when you add a friend group rather than replace one.
Well “need new friends” doesn’t necessarily have to mean “need to replace your old friends,” even though it’s often interpreted as such. Sometimes you just need more friends than you currently have, even if the ones you have are good ones.
Well, obviously, you don’t just ghost your old group, but you shouldn’t be surprised if you drift away from them, either.
they leave you feeling worse after you interact instead of better
One thing that can happen: If your current friends demand something from you other than hanging out, kindness and maybe occasional favours, they’re not really your friends.
I mean, maybe you still want to be in whatever tribe, but be aware that a cult or gang or industry network is a different thing.
you have very strong opinions on particular linux distros
or when you figure out that you’re living in a cult compound
Why’d you repeat yourself?
You seem to always be the worst version of yourself around them.
When they give you the feeling that they only like the idea of you being around, but not actually like you being around.
