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Big “just stop being sad” energy
Thanks I’m cured
What if I don’t think those things are fun?
Yeah this shit is why I rely on chemical help instead of paying these kranks.
nah a shift in perspective is how you truly heal, chemical help makes you reliant. it’s important to start with it so you can rest from constant anxiety, but it’s not going to fix you, you fix you
and what that guy is saying is a valid method of dealing with anxiety that has allowed me to heal step by step
Oh no, using a chemical to fix a chemical imbalance makes you reliant. I’m already reliant on a bunch of pharmaceuticals, why is it only ones for mental health that are so maligned? It’s not a fucking „strength of will“ thing and people like you are why I suffered for decades thinking it was just a matter of mindset.
I wish I knew. I spoke to my brother about this a while ago, and told him I’d never gone to a doctor because I always thought it was a “strength of will” thing. He told me that was insane. First thing he did was get to a doctor and get prescribed. The thought never crossed my mind.
Similarly I was watching some show with my partner and this guy in the show talks derisively to he daughter: “I bought you your anti-di-pressants, what more do you want?” And he’s stressing the word, like he believes it’s some kinda party drug. I think that mentality is a very real thing and hits other areas like birth control too. “I didn’t have this for ME and thus I resent you taking the easy way out!” seems to be the thought process.
dang, you didn’t even get halfway through what i wrote, that’s all i’ll reply with as i can’t be bothered to answer to an argument i already adressed
That’s because you’re giving dangerous advice full of pop science platitudes. What exactly do you think you’re „healing“?
Well put. I understand dismissing the OP as being just another “just be happy” post, but I’ve learned from experience that even a slight change in perspective and mindset can make a world of difference. Will it make all your problems go away? Nope. Can it equip you to manage your problems a little better? Absolutely. Therapy exists for a reason.
“Do it with fun or not at all”
What kind of freaking sociopath would go on a job interview for fun?
Uhm, I actually did that just recently. Earlier this year my current employer decided to close my department until end of year so I had to start looking for a new job but without a very strict deadline. I applied for a job but didn’t think I’d be invited for an interview. I DID get invited, went to the interview with the attitude “Ah, let’s see, I don’t think, they’ll hire me, but it is a fun learning experience”. They didn’t hire me but gave me the feedback that I was a good candidate overall but it showed that I wasn’t prepared at all and that I should apply later this year because they would open more positions. They did open more positions, I applied again, did a Hospitation, prepared properly and actually got the job in the end.
Companies often do job interviews “for fun”, since they already have a candidate and you have no chance from the beginning.
A Circus clown?
If I was independently wealthy and didn’t need a job, I still wouldn’t go to a job interview for fun.
Not with that attitude! /s
To have healthcare in the United States relies on a job so it inevitably makes it a literal life or death for some…
Try going into debt. You know, for fun.
That just means you’re playing a high stakes game of life!
Thanks! I’m cured!
“If you’ve got anxiety, try not having anxiety!”
Have anxiety? Try having fun instead!
Cool.
This might work for some, butt it would never work for someone like me who manages to have a panic attack playing a video game im having fun with
Maybe try to have a panic attack for fun!
Would never do a job interview “for fun”. tf is that even
Bring down capitalism FOR FUN.
This is genuinely good advice, but the term anxiety is too broad.
This can help in some categories where some tasks give you anxietly, and especially can help overcome executive dysfunciton situations.
It’s just not a instant cure for all anxiety situations.
thanks, i’m cured.
I know a lot of people in the comments don’t like this. And they’re perfectly valid. One solution doesn’t work for everyone and it misses a lot of nuance.
That being said, I actually did something like this for my social anxiety, which was damn near debilitating. I had to constantly remind myself that none of what I’m doing is risky or dangerous. Im just gonna roll with the punches. And if I do something that I might cringe about later, fuck it. Do i really care about what strangers think? And if the people I do know are of any value, they won’t chastize me for being a bit odd. So just own it.
This took years to get through. I basically brute forced myself through the social interactions until the anxiety was nowhere near as strong. I still have it, but my job forces me to talk to new people all the time. It got manageable. Maybe something like that could work for someone else.
This is not medical advice, and I strongly suggest you talk with a therapist if you have these issues. I was just too poor to do anything else about it.
What you’re describing sounds like CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) which is one of the best-known evidence-based methods for dealing with mental health problems.
And yeah as someone else who it worked for, it is really easy to treat it as “well thanks I’m cured” until you put in the long effort
CBT always seemed to me like the opposite of easy. It looks like a lot of hard work, and it is.
I will second this. After college I realized I needed to expand my social circle. I agonized for weeks about even asking to join a few local Meetup groups. Eventually I did, and I convinced myself to go to a few events. I started framing social outings as exercise. It wasn’t always fun, but I usually felt good about making myself go.
I still get anxious about social stuff. I still loath job interviews. I don’t like packed bars or events with thousands of people, but I can handle them better now. I can now give myself permission to fuck up a bit.
"Was that social encounter my best work? No.
Was I actually a jerk and everyone hates me now? Also no.
Cool then. A ‘C+’ is still passing!"
“What’s the worse that can happen (socially)?” is now a helpful question. “What if strangers think I’m weird?” IDK, then they do. That’s their problem. And if they remain strangers then I probably won’t need to deal with them again. If they think I’m weird and they still invite me back then at least my weirdness was within acceptable limits. And that’s how I met my wife :)
People get really upset when suggestions on mental health aren’t immediate solutions.
People also get upset when things are presented as obvious or universal solutions
This is presented as an immediate solution.
