• schipelblorp@sh.itjust.works
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      1 month ago

      What are people’s opinion on the downlow thing, otherwise straight men that just have furtive sex with other men, but never a relationship? Denial? Indiscriminate horniness?

          • Čauky Mňauky@lemmy.zip
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            1 month ago

            “heteroromantic bisexual” can also refer to someone who is sexually attracted to any gender (male, female, non-binary, agender, genderqueer)

            Wouldn’t that be “heteroromantic pansexual” then?

            • DaPorkchop_ [they/she/it]@lemmy.ml
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              1 month ago

              depends on whether you’re using the MOGAI definition of bisexual as “attracted to exactly two genders” or the LGBT definition as “attracted to more than one gender”

              in practice there really isn’t much distinction, i don’t know a single person who identifies as bisexual and wouldn’t consider fucking a non-binary person, and the main distinguishing factor between people who label themselves bisexual and those that label themselves pansexual seems to be “was this person active on tumblr or other online communities with a similar vibe at any point between 2014-ish and now”.

  • America@sh.itjust.works
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    1 month ago

    >be me
    >be not gay
    >having sex with my loving husband of 15 years
    >I identify as a cis male
    >our penises touch when I slip out of his asshole on a slow thrust
    >we lock eyes
    >I say no homo
    >he doesn’t reciprocate
    >ejaculates as he continues silently staring into my eyes
    >I pull out and exhaustedly crawl to the bathroom to think things through and remove a meter of silicon
    >can feel his eyes scanning me without even turning around

    Bros, I don’t know what to do. Should I tell our kids?

    • kivihiili@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
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      1 month ago

      if this is about girls love in general then hell yeah!! you should absolutely get some pizza and some girl(s) and go at it as soon as is practical.

      if this is an attempt to flirt with us over the web, we don’t do that stuff. thank you for your understanding (^o^)

      • Lily@lemmy.zip
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        1 month ago

        No it wasn’t an attempt to flirt. Sorry for the misunderstanding.

        It was meant as girls love in general :3

  • aldhissla@piefed.worldEnglish
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    1 month ago

    Here’s my biggest pet peeve (relevant to the scenario): the cancelling of bi-folk. There is a forced dichotomy of men being either hetero- or homosexual, with homoerotic choices somehow automatically negating all heteroerotic choices by framing them as perfidy (i.e. pretending to be heterosexual to pass in society).

    Freddie Mercury was bi. NOT GAY. Bi. I have no issue with gays revering him. I do have issues with gays trying to deny his heteroromantic side (see Mary Austin).

    Rant over.

    • Boozilla@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
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      1 month ago

      My nonexpert understanding is, few people are 100% straight or 100% gay. And it can shift over time, too.

      There’s so much defensive BS around what people are into / aroused by. I’m not saying everyone should share everything to everyone all the time. But I really wish folks would be less fearful about what they like.

      As long as you aren’t attracted to kids, corpses, or animals, I think everything else is probably OK. Even couches, if that’s your thing.

    • Krejga@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
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      1 month ago

      I always felt that it’s just homophobia. The heteroerotic choices of bisexuals are disregarded because of the lost purity of being considered ‘straight’. You can have heterosexual preferences but according to heteronormative society you fit outside this group. It will take time for Bisexuality to be better understood by society and for bisexuals to fully be seen as a distinct group

      • HoopyFrood@lemmy.zip
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        1 month ago

        There was no denial that Freddy Mercury engaged in sexual relationships with men, but those relationships should not delegitimize or downplay his relationships with women by insinuating that any relations with a man make him gay and only engaging with women to fit in.